Do you sometimes feel like you are playing the same thoughts over and over in your head, spending a lot of time and energy doing it and not getting anywhere?
Are you prepared to spend the next 10-30 minutes doing a little self help exercise to change this (I hope so!)?
If you’ve answered yes to these questions, then, we were meant to connect today (I think that is pretty cool).
Be warned…this isn’t easy.
But it will help you if you’re willing to give it a try.
A Little Known Secret
I’m a life coach and have been coaching for about 6 years (at the time of publishing). My clients often come to me because they feel stuck on an problem but can’t seem to find a solution. In this situation, I can always help because I have a good idea of what’s going on.
The reason why they can’t move forward is that they are trapped by their old way of thinking. You can’t actually solve problems by using the same kind of thinking you used when you created the problem! You need to build new synapses in your brain to be able to see new options. Eventually one of those new options will be the solution you’ve been hunting for.
A Gift for You37 Questions to Get Unstuck
So, here is what I was thinking this morning…
I reckon if my clients have this problem, well, you might too. Even though I may not know you, I can help you because I know how to ask great questions and turn them into powerful questioning models that you can use on yourself.
This article is basically a little self help gift from me to you. It’s a series of coaching questions that are representative of the type of questions I ask my coaching clients when they need help getting unstuck and getting going again.
Here are 37 awesome questions guaranteed to shake up your thinking, get you unstuck and moving forward. I highly encourage you to give them a go. Is there anything that’s more important than your own personal development?!
Get Unstuck Now
- What is the problem?
- A problem well stated is a problem half solved. So, please tell me, how, specifically, it is a problem for you now? I’m looking for the root of it. You’ll know you’ve found the root when you feel a swell of emotion when you think about that one thing. Dig deeper until you find it by asking yourself, “how is this a problem for me now?” over and over until you get there.
- What are you telling yourself about why this is a problem?
- What feelings are you focusing on?
- Are you focusing on the past, present or future?
- Is your focus on yourself or on others?
- Who/what are you blaming for the problem?
- When you are totally honest with yourself, what other excuses are you making?
- Just out of curiosity, what would happen if you decided to take full responsibility for the situation, even if it’s not your fault?
- If you did that now what would be different?
- How would that make you feel?
- How would that impact others?
- What else would change?
- What’s stopping you from doing that now?
- What would you need to change within yourself to be able to move forward now?
- If you could design an outcome that would be mutually beneficial, in the long run, for everyone involved, what would that look like?
- What emotions would you feel if you were able to pull that off right now?
- What would you tell yourself if you could do it?
- What would other people say about you?
- Now that you’ve explored the possibilities a bit more, what’s one thing you could do differently that would help the situation?
- What are your top values?
- How does this situation align with your top values?
- How does it not align with your top values?
- By not sorting out this problem, which of your values are you compromising?
- How many ways do you think you know to overcome this?
- What change are you willing to consider making?
- What would happen if you did make the changes?
- What would happen if you didn’t make those changes?
- What wouldn’t happen if you did make the changes now?
- What wouldn’t happen if you didn’t make the changes now?
- How much do you want to move forward on this?
- Is this the beginning or the end?
- Is it a reward or a punishment?
- Are you going to move forward or are you going to quit?
- So when will you stop this from being a limitation?
- How many ways do you know you have solved this?
- What are you noticing now?
Is Your Brain Fried Yet?
That was a lot of questions to throw at you at once but it IS representative of the process you would go through if you were talking to your own personal life coach. So, basically, I’ve given you a coaching session for FREE or for those of you who are coaches yourself, a great list of questions you can use with your clients if you want to.
So, How Did You Go?
If you made it through all of those questions…well done! I think you may just be on to something.
If you just scanned the first few questions, that’s OK too. Maybe your just not stuck enough yet! Remember, that this list is here waiting for you to come back to whenever you need it most.
If you love the questions but need to work with a facilitator to help you through them, drop me an email. I’d be happy to book in a session to help you get unstuck.